By Mike Moritz
I created this idea today, November 21, 2012.
It's the idea that when you come to the realization that one of your close friends (one of which you tell secrets to) is really not all that trustworthy at all, you have a temptation, almost an addiction to telling them secrets even though you know that secret is going to get around. Surprisingly, it takes a lot of self control to keep the secret to yourself.
People might disagree with me, which is okay, but I believe that it's part of our human insecurity to spread secrets. We want to feel important and knowledge of facts is one way to temporarily squander that feeling and expressing it squanders it even more temporarily.
But as for the temptation for telling people things that we know will get spread around by that person, I am not entirely clear as to why exactly we do it but I can say that it's somewhere on the same spectrum as if Mom tells you explicitly and intimidatingly "You will never, ever drink alcohol until you are of age! Ever!", if you have the balls, well now your more tempted to try it.
If anyone has any ideas (or real answers) as to why we do what the idea states, please comment; I think this idea has good potential if I can get ahold of a defined answer.
people, by nature, do not want to keep them to themselves. Also, by nature, people love to talk about themselves. This is compounded with the fact that it feels good to talk about things, especially things that are really cool or are very good for you. This makes it so that as a person, when someone awesome happens to you, naturally you want to share this experience with your friends. You still may tell an untrustworthy friend because subconsciously your desire to talk about it is worth the risk of them telling other people. All this rationalization happens in your mind without you even knowing.
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